How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want?
Jerry Colonna–Reboot co-founder, coach & facilitator.
The critical part here is being complicit and not responsible. Another way to answer this question is to consider how those conditions benefit you.
Jerry follows up presenting three more questions:
What am I not saying that needs to be said?
What am I saying that is not being heard?
What is being said that I’m not hearing?
Jerry Colonna
I first heard these questions on an AMA about influencing without authority, which Jerry Colonna did at Automattic over Zoom. I found those questions incredibly powerful, and I’ve been obsessing about them. That obsession took me to find out more about Jerry’s work, and I ended up buying his books and listening to two interviews on the Tim Ferris podcast:
- Jerry Colonna — The Coach with the Spider Tattoo (#373)
- Jerry Colonna — How to Reboot Yourself and Feel Unrushed in the New Year (#554)
The first one has become one of my all-time favorites on the Tim Ferris podcast. And I realize it is probably because of perfect timing. I happened to be going through stressful events in life, and the material resonated at a deeply personal level.
I can’t recommend the books yet–I’m still waiting for them to arrive–but I’ll try to write about my impressions once I do: